Long Distance Marriage - MUST read!

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A MUST read to all long distance married couple:)

Marriage is a complicated relationship. Being apart physically makes a marriage even more challenging.

Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

1.The key, as it is in all relationships, is communication. Keep the lines of communication open on a daily basis.

2.Being committed to one another and truly believing that your spouse belives in the marriage commitment is vital.

3.A long distance marriage will fail if there is a lack of trust between the partners.

4.Although you are apart from one another, make time for one another. You can do this by sending a letter, an email, writing in a journal, day dreaming about your spouse, or having an icq or chat conversation.

5.Share your expectations about being apart from one another. Also share your expectations when you are close to being together again.

6.Be honest about your concerns and fears about your separation.

7.Try to daily dialogue with each other.

8.Keep a daily journal.

9.Give one another a scented pillow case or shirt to help keep your presence with them.

10.Plan a trip or some fun activity (other than sex) to do when the two of you are back together.

11.Use online communication to send emails, electronic cards, pictures, music, poems, and stories.

12.Use icq or other instant messaging services.

13.Camcorders can be great for being able to see one another or your children.

14.Play online games together.

15.Surprise each other once in a while with a phone call. Send care packages to each other now and then.

Tips:

1.Don't assume that infidelity will occur because of your physical separation. Most long distance marriages do not have to deal with this heartache because of the love and commitment the spouses feel for one another.

2.Since you can't read one another's non-verbal communication, use symbols or words or happy faces to describe your thoughts better.

3.When you are back together, don't rush into getting things done around the house right away. Allow the returning spouse to have some time to adjust to being back home.

What You Need:

•Commitment

•Communication

•Sense of Humor

•Trust

 

(Article.source: http://marriage.about.com/cs/militarymarriages/ht/longdistance.htm)